25 February 2006
This will be my last entry for about
a month, as I don't expect to have email again until the 31st of March. Also,
it won't be what I'd hoped it would be about -- abortion and the consequences of
it being illegal here (a timely issue given current dakota legislation -- people
need to understand that abortion being illegal does nothing to stop the practice
but only causes more debilitation, sterility and death in the world) and a
little about the people and recent events in village. Me, my lack of patience
with dishonesty, arrogance & stealing, along with my
don't-give-me-that-bullshit attitude has stirred some things up -- which is
probably good --, but my sometimes blatant lack of tact & politesse in
expressing this has created an enemy. I tried to be tactful but he pissed me
off. So far, however, everyone else involved in the issue seems to be "on my
side" as it were, and reassured me that I was justified in my reaction. It's
not over yet, though, and we have yet to say how he plays his next hand.
Anyway, we all just got a memo re
what we can and cannot talk about due to privacy and the image of PC and the
govt, and I hadn't realized that I'm not even supposed to mention the name of my
village let alone people's names in village. I haven't read it yet, just heard
snippets, but I obviously haven't been following the rules, so I want to read it
thoroughly before posting any more details of my work and life in
village.
Also, before I forget, I wanted to
apologize in advance for all the emails I didn't get to respond to this weekend,
and to all the other people I wanted to write to, not only this weekend, but
many weekends before. It really is a bitch to use computers here -- this is my
5th hour and 3rd computer here today, I keep getting kicked off the server, and
I haven't even been able to finish the work I came here to do. On top of that,
I always have a bunch of other errands to accomplish while I'm in town. So…
sorry! I want to keep the recipient list relatively small because it can
sometimes cause problems otherwise and I am counting on people forwarding these
emails (like sister forwarding them on to other family members & friends of
family), and that they get posted on the site.
Briana, loved your email, it made me
laugh out loud! Jessica, forgot to say Yes, anytime you want to visit, come on
over! I'll be going to Morocco in July with family, and to Mali in January with
Kath, but otherwise I'm here. If we have camps or other projects going on, I
don't think it makes a difference -- we'll just have you join in probably. If
any Orionites can locate Marth, tell her yes I'm here! Jeremy, it was great to
hear from you too, and Dann you've been forwarding all these to him, I think so
thanks! Please let Paul know I got his message, and why I'm gonna have you keep
forwarding messages to him (because I know you're good about it). Auntie Karen,
got one of your packages and have never been so happy to see notebooks and nice
pens, and everything seems to have come through unscathed tho it was clear
they'd opened it cuz it was so covered in tape I couldn't even tell who it was
from. Thank you! and love & kisses. I've never seen so many
m&m's.
Otherwise, in response to the many
concerned friends and family asking how I am dealing with the bug issue here,
knowing my fear of spiders, I wanted to reassure you that I'm mostly okay in
that regard.
There aren't too many big awful
spiders, though there are plenty of them in general, and the few big awful ones
have made me scream like a little baby and go running for the insecticide and a
blunt object. Thank god I'm not afraid of reptiles, I often tell myself,
because there are some very very large lizards and they love to run around on
the walls of my shower and latrine, hopefully running after and catching very
very large insects. I would like them to work harder at that, but I shudder to
think what I'd be dealing with if they weren't there. They must be
eating pretty heartily because they leave their droppings all over the place.
They refuse to respect my american-given right to a clean shower and toilet.
But, whatever, at least they don't dive-bomb me like the ridiculously pissy
black wasps do. They are as big as dragonflies, and insist on building many
little sticky mud nests in there, which I was fine with until they started
attacking me in my own space, for fear I'm coming after their brood evidently!
So we've begun to battle, and it hasn't been pretty. I kill them every chance I
get now, and destroy the nests that look new or otherwise in use, but they don't
take kindly to that, and find ways to ambush me when I least expect it. The
scariest moments being when I'm washing my hair and thus must close my eyes at
intervals, or in the middle of wrestling with a giant spider that just won't die
even after being soaked with insecticide -- I know the thing will eventually
die, but I can't take my eyes off it until I'm sure, and even when it finally
drops defeated to the floor, I will still hit it with the blunt object to be
extra sure. The wasps wait for these moments and they KNOW, and while my eyes
are fixed on the 8-legged vampire, or closed with soap and shampoo all over me,
I will here their ominous deep buzz around my head. Little bastards. It's not
my bloody fault you decided to build in my latrine. I talk out loud to all of
them, as I make a Lara Croft move to fend off the vampire with a sandle in one
hand while twisting to shoot insecticide at the wasp flying by with the other
hand. I do not feel guilty about my use of insecticide. I do feel foolish that
whenever I enter my latrine, I kick the door open and stand back a moment, a
broom in hand, and then brush away any potential spiderwebs before ducking my
head in to see if any wasps are waiting. I never ever enter my latrine first
thing in the morning without my broom (a bunch of thin sticks tied together).
No matter the urgency, I absolutely must sweep away every possible strand of
web in front of me and above me before reaching the toilet 15 feet in. It's
pathetic, but I have a phobia, and that's the way it is.
I really do miss my life in Seattle,
even if I DO remember feeling very ready for some sort of shake up and a new
adventure. Life was good, and oh so easy, and of course it's not so easy here
-- and not just because of the crawly things. It's not about being unhappy,
it's about not yet finding a sense of real happiness and comfort level, which I
of course understood wouldn't happen in 5 months, and which I optimistically
look forward to. But there are things I will continue to miss, on top of
friends and family, such as a good cup of espresso, a plethora of dining
options, and most achingly live music and theatre. So far the music I've
encountered is repetitive & monotonous to my musically untrained ears, and
the couple "theatrical" pieces I've seen are not terribly inspired it seems to
me. "Culture" in that sense has not developed any more than infrastructure, but
I suppose I should be happy enough that given the monotonous and not terribly
inspired daily lives most people here are forced to lead, that they at least
give it a try, and find something within themselves to express and to entertain
for others. And, yes, I know I am judging their musical and theatrical efforts
from an outsider's perspective. I know it's a hoot for them, and I can tell it
speaks to their experience and perspective of the world, because the audience
always seems to love it, whether it's a funeral gathering, a church choir and
drumming session, or the stilt festival we saw the other day. The stilt
festival -- guys on 10 or 12 foot stilts and dressed up in funky costumes and
rather creepy masks -- was cool to us americans for about 10 minutes, but then
we realized that every troupe was coming out and doing the same moves, and not
coordinating them at all with each other (THE dance of this country -- or at
least my region -- is something very similar to the chicken dance, and doesn't
vary far from it for very long), and each troupe's attending group of women and
drummers sounded essentially the same as well, and no different than what we
always hear. Only one troupe varied it a little, dancing together and telling a
story with their movements. This troupe was from Atakpame, a relatively big
town compared to the other towns represented, which helps confirm my suspicion
that part of why I don't get much variation in music and theatre is because my
small village is just like any other small town in the world, in that the arts
aren't as cultivated as, say, the art of surviving on very little. They've got
other things on their minds and the old traditions suit them just fine anyway.
I hope to replace the lack of music with some griots in village, and getting
them to tell me some of their stories via a translator. But that will be later,
after I gain some trust I think.
It's now almost 10:00 on Sunday
night the 26th, and I'm leaving town in the morning. I've had a stupid stupid
day trying to just do email, and finally had to save this to a floppy disc and
come back this eve to send it finally. But, it somehow makes me feel connected
to send these out, even if it will be a month before I even get any messages
back -- and so it's worth it to me, no matter how insignificant the content of
this particular email is. I'm sure I'm forgetting to send out important
information, such as what I'd really love to get in a package (some of you have
asked and i thank you, but it's like when you get to the video store and can't
for the life of you remember any of the movies you've been dying to see).
Again, thanks for all your love and
support and offers to send me whatever I need. I'm doing fine, of course, but I
do even better hearing from y'all.
Love, Laura

